August 23, 2011

My Birth Experience



I don’t know where to begin. But I got a lot of emails asking me to share my experience giving birth at Putrajaya Hospital under Full Paying Patient Scheme with Dr.Hamidah. Honestly, it was quite okay lah. Not my worst nightmare for sure. My complaints only to the staff nurse at the Labour Hall, tak friendly and lembap. Tapi staff nurse kat level 5, the FPP exclusive floor, semuanya baik-baik belaka, superb!  But Dr.Hamidah, she’s an awesome gynae. I love the way she consult me. Senang kata I love everything about her lah. Rase macam ade chemistry dengan Dr.Hamidah walaupun masa first check-up nampak macam agak kerek, tapi bile dah second check-up jadi best pulak. Maybe mase first check-up she’s too busy with meetings kot so dia macam nak kejar masa. But I’m glad that I found her as my gynae.

Let’s begin my birth story with a day before I gave birth which is May 12th 2011, Thursday.  That night I already feel mild contraction like 30mins apart, from 2am til 5am. I thought it was normal because for the past few days I’ve been getting the false alarm. But then when I woke up in the morning, to brush my teeth and pee suddenly I saw blood stain. Sikit je, like dua titik yang kecil. I wanted to tell K right away, but he’s still sleeping at that time, so I decided to join him and continue my sleep since I can’t sleep the night before.  Then around 9am, once K woke up I told him that I have a couple of blood stain showing. K terus ajak pegi hospital. Mandi-mandi, siap-siap, check barang apa yang patut dibawa kemas rumah sikit then off we go.

Sebelum cerita dengan lebih lanjut, nak inform dulu, my EDD is on May 15th,2011 tau. Memang hari2 berdoa supaya baby keluar cepat dari EDD. I don’t want to be overdue.  Okay, sambung balik.  Mase on the way to hospital tu sembang-sembang dengan K. (hospital dengan rumah I tak jauh, about 10mins je driving). Dua-dua macam excited lah, main teka-teka, baby keluar hari ni ke esok? Or baby nak tunggu keluar on EDD jugak. Hehehe. I was more excited and anxious to give birth sebab dah tak tahan already carry perut yang besar dah berat ke hulu ke hilir. Masa tu rasa mintak-mintaklah baby keluar harini. But at the same time rase neves, takut,risau semua ada. Maklumlah first timer kan? Haha.. Sesampai je di hospital terus pegi emergency at labor hall. Macam blur-blur je tunggu kat situ. Sebab tak tau ape nak buat. Dah berdiri lebih kurang 10 minit kat situ, baru la ade sorang staff nurse tu tanye, “ye dik, nak ape?”. Nak ape dia tanya. Ahaha..nak beranak lah kak oii.. nak ape lagi. Lepas dah bagi semua details whatsoever, nurse tu pun suruh pegi masuk dalam satu bilik yang penuh dengan ibu-ibu yang tengah baring kat atas katil dengan di monitor oleh doktor-doktor pelatih. First diorang suruh I tanggalkan panties, pastu baring atas katil. Rasa macam segan gila sebab doktor pelatih yang monitor I tu lelaki. Muda pulak tu. Rasenya macam sebaya je kot. But he was very kind and polite. Masa dia nak scan my tummy dia siap mintak izin dulu, pastu dia Tanya “okay, I nak scan your tummy ni. Tapi kalau you rase tak comfortable I boleh panggil doktor perempuan scan kan. Up to you,”. Masa dia Tanya tu I macam terblur kejap. Haha.  I tanye dia balik “oh boleh eh request doktor perempuan?” Lepas tu dia kata “boleh je, nanti saya panggil kan”. Lepas doktor perempuan tu dah scan and cek apa yang patut, tengok-tengok I dah dilate 2cm. Alhamdulillah. Senyum sampai ke telinga. Mase tu rasa macam nak lompat-lompat sambil cakap yabedabaduuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!! Padahal baru 2cm. Haha.. Tapi masa tu I yakin I punya dilation cepat! Confident tu penting!

After that, staff nurse tu suruh I tunggu kat luar kejap and bagitau husband that I have to be warded. Seronok gila rasa. Tapi yang tak bestnya single executive room semua tengah full at the moment. Hampeh betul. So they gave us the 2 bedded room, which cost us the same as the single exec. Agak disappointed lah mula-mula tu. Tapi we had no choice. Diorang kata esok baru ade single exec room yang kosong. Pasrah aje lah. So petang tu my mom, my brother, my cousins and aunty, my in laws came to visit me. My mom datang bawak Coffee Bean Caramel Ice Blended, McD’s Quarter Pounder, Fries, Nugget. Seronok lah melantak dulu sebelum kene berpantang kan. Diorang pelik tengok I boleh lepak-lepak tengok TV, makan-makan, gelak-gelak, online semua. Everyone thought I dah sakit-sakit macam dalam drama-drama tu dah. I pun pelik jugak. Diorang ni semua macam lah tak penah beranak, padahal diorang anak dah 3, 4 dah. Chill lah kan, baru 2cm dilate. Lepas semua orang dah balik, around 10pm macam tu bermula lah rasa sakit yang ditunggu-tunggu tu. Mula-mula okay lagi lah 15-20minit sekali. Boleh gelak-gelak and sembang lagi. Nurse datang check on contraction and seluk, masih lagi 2cm. Tak berganjak pun. Malam tu memang tak dapat tidur pun. Tengok K tido  macam best je kat katil sebelah. Walaupun tidur dia terganggu sebab nurse masuk checked on me, tapi snoring lah jugak K tido. :P  I sorang-sorang lah terkebil-kebil tak dapat tidur menahan sakit yang makin lama makin kerap dan jarak dekat. Berpeluh-peluh tahan sakit tapi menggigil sejuk. Bila dah pagi, nurse suruh I breakfast. Awal gila breakfast, rasa macam tak lalu, tapi lapar gila. I order pancake with honey and butter. Lepas je makan terus muntah. Standard lah I  kalau pagi-pagi mesti muntah punya. Makan ke tak makan ke, muntah tu dah macam rutin harian dah.  Sampai nak beranak pun masih muntah jugak. Ape lah nasib.

Lepas breakfast, doktor datang buat rounding. Dr. Hamidah cek nak tengok dah berapa cm I dilate. Nak tau bape cm? selama satu malam I menahan sakit tu, 3 cm je dilate. Kecewa rasa. Lepas doktor cek, I pegi toilet nak wee wee, lepas dah settle suddenly I tgk ade ketulan darah yang agak besar (besar die lebih kurang seketul nugget) kat tepi toilet bowl on the floor. I macam confuse, ni sape punye? I lah kot kan? Sape lagi yang ada kat situ. I dengan K je yang guna toilet tu. Tapi I tak rasa pulak ade bende keluar daripada vagina ke ape ke. Pastu I panggil K suruh tengok. Walaupun I tau dia fobia tengok darah, hehe. Pastu I kutip ketulan darah tu, tunjuk kat nurse. Lepas tengok je darah tu, nurse kata, okay ni dah boleh siap-siap pegi labor room dah ni. Pastu I cakap kat nurse tu, “tapi I baru dilate 3cm je”. Then nurse kata,”takpe kita standby je kat situ, senang”. I pun ikut je lah. Cuak jugak nak turun pegi labor room. Labor room tu share dengan patient yang non-fpp. So boleh imagine lah macam mana nurse-nurse yang attend non-fpp ni. Macam cikgu disiplin. Garang, tak senyum, tak friendly. Berbeza gila!!! Serious tak tipu. Macam dari hotel 5 star terus turun ke motel murahan layanan dia. Bila depan Dr.Hamidah semua berlakon jadi baik dan prihatin. Bila Dr.Hamidah keluar semua macam gampang perangai masing-masing. Pelik arh nape diorang tak buat labor room fpp and non-fpp asing2 macam ward. Scary dowh! Dah la masa I tengah dok sakit-sakit tu, tetibe ramai masuk labor room I. Semua macam nampak kelam kabut, lari ke sana ke mari. Rupa-rupanya, ada emergency case, orang beranak dalam van. Tak sempat nak masuk labor room pon. Kepala anak dia dah terkeluar kat vagina tu for about 15-30 mins kalau tak silap i. Miracle sebab anak tu masih hidup. Yang I ni dok terkebil-kebil lagi tahan sakit. Tunggu epidural punya lah lama tak sampai-sampai. I request for epidural pukul 1pm. Pukul 3.30pm baru I dapat. Doktor bz katenya. Hangin je time tu. Rasa nak karate semua nurse-nurse kat situ. Sampai K pon I rasa macam nak karate jugak. Kesian K, he tried to massage my back, and calm me down. Tapi I jenis yang kalau sakit sangat, I tak suka orang sibuk-sibuk urut-urut, pegang-pegang, cakap-cakap. I lebih suka tahan sakit tu dan diam lepas tu pegang besi katil. Masa kat dalam labor room tu memang dah sakit sangat dah. 7 minit sekali, 5minit sekali, 4 minit sekali, 3 minit sekali. Then Dr.Hamidah datang, pecahkan ketuban I, and tolong dilate kan sikit. That time dah dilate 5cm! Lepas tu baru lah dapat epidural. Before epidural sampai, nurse suruh I sedut gas ethonox tu. Mula-mula I berlagak cakap tak nak, tapi sebab tak tahan sangat I sedut jugak lah. Best jugak. Rasa high2 gitu. I sedut sebanyak dan sekuat mungkin. I hate the pain from the contraction tu. Lepas dah lalok-lalok sedut gas tu, doktor bius tu pon sampai. I nampak dia macam an angel sent from above. Macam rasa nak pegi lari kat dia peluk kuat, and at the same time nak marah dia and said “WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG?? aku macam nak mati dah menahan sakit ni”, hahah!


I’m so lucky that God sent him to me to perform the epidural procedure. Doktor tu baik sangat. I feel like I’m in a good hands. But seriously epidural procedure sakit nak mampus! Saaaaaaakit gila2 sakit! Itupun nasib baik I dah lalok-lalok sikit sebab dah sedut gas ethonox tu. And I keep on sucking it, sedalam mungkin masa doktor tengah masuk kan epidural tu. I remember I cried and looking at K with the most saddest helpless face ever! And K looked at me with the most compassionate look, like he wanna help me to reduce the pain but there’s nothing he can do, and I can see there’s tears pooling around his eyes.(Ha, time ni lah rase macam, cukup lah sorang anak. Tak payah banyak-banyak) Sangat emosi okay that time. Nasib baiklah I tgh high2 masa tu. Kalau  I tengah normal, I rase lagi teruk rasa sakit tu. Gila! Memang gila! Tapi lepas dah settle semua, rasa lega. I boleh senyum dan sembang-sembang dengan K. Epidural memang amazing lah!





After 2 hours of waiting, suddenly I rasa macam nak terberak. I told K, then K cakap nak panggil doktor ke? I said no need lah, rasa sikit je tak banyak. Then around 6.20PM macam tu, Dr.Hamidah masuk Tanya I okay tak? I cakap “ okay, steady lagi (haha, bolehlah steady kan sebab dah ada Mr.Epi tolong). Tapi I ada rasa macam nak terberak”. Pastu doktor cek, dia kata “owh, u dah boleh start push ni”. Seronok gila bila doktor kata dah boleh start push. Sebab kitorang dah boring tunggu kat dalam labor room tu.

6.25pm doktor siap-siapkan all the ‘tools’, kaki I kene kepak letak atas legs supporter tu, and everyone in their position. 6.30pm I started to push. I takde rase sakit pon, sebab dah ambik epidural. Tapi I rasa nak terbuang air besar. Rasa macam senang lah sikit nak push, sebab I can concentrate. Seronok jugaklah time push tu. Banyak cheerleader. Pastu doktor main psikologi. Dia kate “baby’s head dah nampak, dah keluar dah, sikit je lagi nak keluar ni” . I pun lagi suka lah nak push time tu. Hahah. Padahalnya K kate time tu tak nampak ape pun lagi. Haha… I started push from 6.30pm, baby keluar 6.48pm. (Mase I push tu takde lah terjerit-jerit macam yang dalam drama selalu tunjuk. Now baru I tau diorang tu saje exaggerate. Hhehehe. I pun tertipu :P )

6.48pm keluar lah baby boy seberat 2.8kg yang bernama Rizq Thaqif. He didn’t cry macam baby lain. I mean selalu I dengar bay lain cry macam bunyi annoying. Thaqif punye cry macam bunyi sedih manja and slow je time tu. Pastu mata die terbukak. Thaqif tengok I. I tengok Thaqif. Time tu dah rasa sangat-sangat  sayang kat budak kecik ni! First thing  I tengok masa doktor letak atas my chest, putih ke tak baby aku ni,  boleh? Hahaha..yelah sebab I langsung tak minum susu, or soya bean. I minum teh o je hari-hari and milo ais tabur je so I paranoid sikit lah jugak sebenarnye. Tengok-tengok okay lah, quite fair lah his skin. Alhamdulilah, syukur sangat-sangat! Tapi taklah seputih Caucasian. :P  Kalau putih macam Causcasian karang lain pulak jadinya. Nanti orang tuduh I ada affair dengan Ryan Gosling pulak kan? Susah pulak.



So teori orang ramai yang soh minum susu and soya bean time pregnant nak bagi anak putih melepak tu memang tak boleh diguna pakai ye adik-adik? Semua tu terjadi dengan kehendak dah izin Allah. Kalau dah minum soya and susu tiap-tiap hari sekalipun, kalau Dia kata dia nak bagi baby tu kulit sawo matang, sawo matang lah jadinya. Dulu I selalu kene marah dengan my hubby and my lil sis time pregnant sebab tak minum soya and susu. Sedih je kene marah that time sebab diorang tak paham my condition.



Itulah die sedikit-sebanyak my experience on giving birth. Not bad lah. Rasa macam tak sangka lah dah ada anak bujang sorang. Kalau ikutkan banyak lagi nak cerita ni, part doktor jahit, lepas tu part my first moment of breastfeeding bonding and more tapi karang sampai esok pun tak habis ni. Ini pun dah 4 pages dah ni. Lagipun I bukan reti sangat nak bercerita. Tak tau lah korang paham ke tak cite I ni. Dah bertabur-tabur je, macam tak ikut kronologi pun. Sebab tu I malas nak cerita :P
So to those who emailed  and requested me to share my experience on giving birth at Putrajaya Hospital (FPP) with Dr.Hamidah, here you go, this one is for you guys. I hope it will help you on choosing the right place and the right gynae depending on your budget. I know it’s really difficult to make a decision, been there and done that. The grand total of our bill was RM2,216 (1 night stay at double bedded room (which is the same price as the executive single room) + 1 night stay at executive single room + Epidural + Episiotomy + Consultation +etc …….) Okaylah kan? Rasa sama je macam kat private hospital tapi lebih murah termasuk epidural lagi uolls! Cuma nurse kat labor room tu je lah kerek sikit. Yang lain semua okay! Fyi, single room die lebih mahal dari single room Prince Court tau. Prince Court RM150 je. Yang ni RM250. Dan kalau you kene emergency c-sect pon bill takkan lebih dari RM5K. And one more thing kat situ diorang encourage breastfeeding. So tak payah risau, once baby keluar je dia terus bagi baby kat kita suruh breastfeed. Diorang memang takde formula milk. Dan baby yang sihat takda apa-apa complication, memang akan 24 hours dengan kita.Memang best! Jadi kalau siapa-siapa yang nak bersalin dengan selesa dan dijaga rapi tapi bajet sikit, boleh lah consider government hospital then ambik lah Full Paying Patient Scheme. Berbaloi-baloi! Semuanya bergantung pada nasib dah rezeki masing-masing jugak. Wallahua’lam.

Okay I think I better stop right here J Panjang sangat dah ni. Selamat berbuka! Ciao.


p/s : Today Thaqif is 103 days already. Time flies…



 Love,
Mrs.K

August 17, 2011

I No Like Dis Feeling

Off all day he decided to choose on my first working day after 3 months of my maternity leaves.For the first time ever he can turn by himself, but I am not there to witness the miracle. This kind of stuff, demotivate me to keep on working 9-5. The fact that I will miss every of his ‘first’achievement. First turn, first crawl, first laugh, first word, first step and so on. Sad lah! I’m his mother I should be there and witness every of his ‘first’ of every little thing. Seriously I’m in dilemma. I wanna quit my job and be a fulltime housewife. I wanna take care of my own offspring. I feel like I’m a bad mother sending my baby to my mom during my working hours. ( but in the mean time my lil sis is taking care of my liil one) Bad mother! But then again, I’m a coward. I’m scared that I will not have the power of purchasing if I quit it. And I think I’m a bad mother if I can’t give the best life to my son. Argghh I just wish I can have both. Maybe I should pray harder and think harder.





p/s : The only best feeling that I enjoy going to work is that 15minutes ride from my home to office. Because I can de-stress by singing out loud to my favourite tunes! And when i got home i get to see and cuddle with this cheeky lil fella!  <3










Love,
Mrs.K

August 16, 2011

The Holy Month

Since my maternity leave end in August which falls on fasting month, this is my first ever experience being a working mother and fasting. It’s a bit challenging for me because after work, I need to cook meal for iftar and also for sahur. I still remember vividly our first time fasting together as a married couple. I don’t usually do sahur, if I ever did, I will eat at 12pm or 1am during my single and ready to mingle time (ha-ha). But K, he MUST have his sahur or he will be so weak by 2pm. So it’s a culture shock for me. I was very lazy to get up at 430am to prepare sahur for him and sometimes I get angry and even asked myself why do I sign up for this? But year after year I try to improve. (ceh padahal baru 2 tahun kawin). This year, Alhamdullilah I think I improve a bit lah. When I’ m still on my maternity leave I have no problem at all, cooking iftar and sahur for my family  because I know I can continue my nap in the morning when my baby is sleepin. But after I start working, I find it a bit hard to get up 430 in the morning, very stressfull. Knowing that I have to get ready for work afterward, with no proper sleep, exhausted! Yesterday was my first day at work. I tell you, rasa macam nak patah pinggang, memang langsung tak bangun sahur. I only prepare white rice je untuk K sahur pagi tadi. Yang lain tu pandai2 lah panaskan lauk sendiri. Huhu…seriously too tired! Kalau tak keje takpe, tak jadi hal sangat. So nak benti ke tak ni? :P


P/s : I miss this cheeky boy lah!






Love,
Mrs.K


Don't Grow Up Too Fast!

3 Months!




Time does fly. In the blink of an eye, Thaqif is already 3 months. But for his mother, the one that have to do all the dirty job, it’s certainly not in the blink of an eye lah….haha. But it’s worth it. He was born  2.8KG now he might be 6KG already. It’s not an easy job, I admit. But I really enjoy every bit of it. I will forget about EVERYTHING when I see him smiling and laughing and mumbling. That’s one of the best part of being a mom.  It’s not always rainbow and butterflies, it does rain and thunder but once the rainbow came out you’ll be smiling. Thaqif is not an easy baby. But according to the book I read, he’s analyze as a ‘textbook baby’. Which means every progress on him is growing accordingly like a normal baby. Since in my confinement days, he’s been a sleep fighter and a light sleeper. He will not sleep if no one ‘dodoi’ him. He will cry like someone is beating him up if he’s sleepy and no one ‘dodoi’. He taught us a lot of things to make us to understand him better. For example, if he hungry, he will cry with the sound of ‘neh’ (Dunstan baby language does help as well). If he wanted to burp, he will cry with sound of ‘earh’ or cry out loud for no reason while lying down. If he wanted to sleep he will mumble and mumble and mumble and if we didn’t ‘dodoi’ him he’ll cry out loud and scream like nobody business. The ‘dodoi’ is not the normal ‘dodoi’ which u put your baby down in the crib or lying next to you and sing him lullaby or pat his bum bum. NO! He taught us his way of ‘dodoi’. We have to stand up, carry him and bend our knees up and down. We named it 'Kuda-kuda' style. And he knows when you did it wrong. Amazing! That is the only way to put him to sleep for the past 3 months. And once he fell asleep, we can’t simply put him down on his crib. We’ve tried so many times but he will automatically open up his beautiful black eyes. We felt like it’s a waste of energy put him to sleep and then once we putting him down, he woke up in a bit. So we decided to let him sleep on our chest. That’s the only way. He can sleep for 2-3 hours on our chest. 











Apa-apa lah Thaqif boy, as long as you happy..love you like crazy lah! :) 







Love,
Mrs.K







August 11, 2011

They Complete Me

The day before puasa. Just the 3 of us! He's been a very good boy that day. Thanks for behaving Thaqif! I love you and you to bits!! Muaahhhh!





Now, I can't imagine my life without these 2 boys. My heart & soul. 



Love,
Mrs.K